Pathi, Patni and Cricket:

Pathi, Patni and Cricket:

சாப்பிட்ட பின் தனது ஐந்து விரல்களையும் வாய்க்குள் விட்டு இழுத்த பின் தோசையில்லாத அந்த தட்டையும் சும்மா தடவிக் கொண்டு இருந்தான் சிவா. “ ஏங்க வெறும் தட்டையும் விரலையும் எவ்வளவு தான் சும்மா தடவிட்டு இருபபீஙக இன்னும் தோசை வேணுமா? கேட்டுத் தொலைங்களேன் “ என்ற வித்யாவின் குரலுக்கு “ சிக்ஸர்” ஸுப்பர் ஷாட்” என்பது பதிலாய் வந்தது.

“இந்த சனியன் பிடிச்ச கிரிக்கெட் இன்னும் முடியலையா? ரெண்டு மாசமாச்சு வீட்ல நிம்மதியாத் தூங்கி. எப்ப பாரு ஒரே சத்தம்.” என்று அலுத்துக் கொண்டவளுக்கு “ ஓட்ரா, பைத்தியம். தோனிக்கு பாட்டிங் குடுக்கறதை விட்டுட்டு இவன் சிங்கிள் எடுக்கறான் பாரு” என்ற சிவாவின் குரலைக் கேட்டத்தும் பொல பொல என்று வந்தது. வந்ததே கோபம் அவளுக்கு....விடு விடுவென்று அடுக்களையில் இருந்து வெளியே வந்தாள்.

“உங்களுக்கு கொஞ்சமாவது ஏதாவது இருக்கா?

Ever heard of the above conversation, if you are India, that too in cricket crazy tamilnadu you are bound to hear it so often. The normalcy of domestic life affected to a greater extent as like a bharat bandh announced for a major cause. It is so strange in families that 90% of the husbands are cricket lovers, of them 95 % of the wives were cricket haters but serial lovers. ( Television serials - no other meaning fellas ). Normally it is Dhoni v/s Gayle for husband. Rajam vs Nalini for wife. These two ends can never meet. The god forsaken cricket matches very delicately poised and scheduled in prime time to catch more eye balls. The same time was attributed to mother of all programmes in television the MEGA serials.

By the way if you are not aware about what mega serials was, then either you have not born yet or living in some other alien planet. Normally the serial starts somewhere during 2002 might have reached the interval stage by this time ( mind you we are in 2010 now ). By this time the original director, dialogue writer, hero, were gone. Heroine who was in love with someone in the beginning of the serial might have became a mother of two by this time. Never mind, women in tamilnadu are very shrewd and intelligent. Just by the body language of the actors they would understand which character they actually play.

The recently concluded IPL might have raised so many scandals, so many dramas were unfolded in high places, lots and lots of money were transacted and transmitted. But the biggest impact that made in normal homes is beyond reconstruction. At least 20000 husbands were either slapped by their wives are hit by the flying utensils from the kitchen. ( it is unconfirmed statistic figures may be high definitely) or they might have done overtime at office ( or that was what they normally claim ) happily sit in a bar with their favourite drink and enjoyed the IPL in big screen. But ladies don't need reason to pick their husbands you know. They started fight, invent the reason and continue the fight till the hapless husband gets mothballed sufficient enough to run out of the house at the first opportune moment.

To the normal house holds the biggest of enemies are not the financial status and lack of money. The unassailable culprits are Mobile Phones and Television sets. ( isko pakadna mushkil nahin, namumkin hai ). People even forget to wear proper clothes ( they wear clothes at least ) but never forget to pick up their mobiles first thing in the morning. In a recent survey conducted the first thing a mobile user did after he got up in the morning is to check his mobiles for missed calls or messages. Not that they are presidents, diplomats, industrialists or big guns. If they found their mobile as is where is condition they started wondering why anyone hasn't called. Actually the last call ended very late in the night in between only few hours were left.

Even for inexplicably tolerant wife the sight of her husband with a mobile phone with eyes glued to television is inflammable and if at all they are empowered and licensed to kill like james bond or jaishankar or any movie hero for that matter they would have happily become widows after strangling their husbands throat. such is the effect of television and mobile phone. When combined together these two apparatuses are deadly not only for husbands but for normal human beings also.

On the other hand for a husband who is returning from office after hectic work ( hectic or non hectic doesn't' matter ) the sight of his wife looking agape at the television set watching an idiotic serial wherein a snake which entered the house on Monday ( 15 days back ) still searching for the person it is going to attack for which the wife is unduly worried. Seeing this the husband silently wishes how good the god damn snake be in his own house with its prey being his wife. Such is the impact a tv serials of which a majority of working men ( working at office only sometimes office and home too ) got affected and they were deprived off their evening coffee, favourite news programme, favourite tennis or cricket matches
( some times they watch men's' tennis also for no particular reason but their interests are centred around the likes of maria sharapova, justin henin, steffi graf for some particular reason )

Why is this unnecessary, uncertain emotional climate prevail in a household? is watching cricket, serials, talk shows, a long mobile talk a sin?. No. Not at all. anything which crosses boundary should be stopped at the same point and the game has to be played in a different level. For a working or non working women the sight of their husbands with mobile phone in the left ear with head tilted and the whispering talks is a clear irritation because they have very few hours at their disposal for sharing the entire days happenings. An half an hour patient hearing would help the men to gain a lot of inroads in their counterparts emotional platforms as women by nature after they poured whatever they are trying to, they stop at that and leave happily. Normally they don't need advice from anybody ( whether they heed to that is a different case ) all they need is some patient listening ( it is not that you should be a patient of an e.n.t specialist for selective hearing ). When they are deprived of this fundamental right they became agitated resulted in the loss of harmony at home.

Where should we draw a line for this endemic problem? The answer lies with each one of us. We all knew the anger to the spouse would get subsided in due course. But that due course should be at the earliest. problem arises out of this two menacing habits have a profound impact on their daily life and after some point of time life become miserable. This will lead to finding reasons to start fight and thereby disturbing the peace of the entire home. The new technique adopted now a days is a pregnant silence between husband and wife where they wont talk to each other for two three days and talks resumed by fourth day only to get disturbed on sixth day. Whats the use?. what are we gain by watching or doing some habits which are clearly identified as potential danger to normal domestic life. A proper planning, and execution is the need of the hour. Husbands should identify and understand the wives tastes and distastes and act remember at least ACT accordingly. sacrificing an Australia Pakistan match or Afghanistan south Africa match would not be a sin. in fact it is advisable to watch all the matches India play. So that some part of time we would definitely fed up with it counting the number of matches they actually PLAY rather than ADVERTISE.

A prior approval and permission on this could be sought well in advance. (they (wives) grant them in style that's for sure, but whether they hold the promise up depends on that days happening ) Keep them in good humour as soon as you are back home. Leaving socks and shoes at the in the middle of the hall and looking for remote control naturally make them angry.

For women understand the husbands have some genuine reasons to make some long phone calls after dark ( as office gossips happening in far way branches cant be discussed at office time ) which sometimes will even decide their careers ups and downs. Just realise the need of it and give them a go. Watching games or talk shows are the only way they can unwind their heavy heads as they start scratch their heads to skull everyday on targets, reports, analysis, tallys, superiors, subordinates, clients, competitors etc. Anything that stops the release of their emotional reservoir will make them more TENSED resulting in the negative outburst of emotions.

Even the COUPLE should try of initiating a talk and discuss about how much they spend on tv and mobile each day, and together as husband and wife would be a good starting point. after some point of time both of them realise the errors on their respective part and try to correct themselves.

But one thing is certain, all this things happen only when they genuinely realise the problems at home are, only if not only but mainly because of this reasons and take necessary corrective measures. otherwise this blog is just another way of getting REGISTER my own feelings at homes. the above mentioned siva and vidya are not fictional characters. They might be you and me as well. So stop watching sharapova every game she plays, stop watching sachin every ODI he perform, stop watching mega soaps from 6 to 10 in the evening, because one skip here and there will not make our lives empty in turn it will make it pleasant...


Sorry its time to watch Australia vs. South Africa. Indians are out of t 20 world cup as they were thrashed by windies. My wife has slept already and its 12 in the night friends, she should be. I have just finished a 26 minutes call from a colleague i am going to see tomorrow morning at office... of course my wife was annoyed... what to do this blog is just completed. I should sit with her one of these days...

sure friends definitely i will sit...when???

I only propose.....

good day

Mathu.